Thoughts of a short-tempered, hot-headed person
Ladies...
Sometimes, its frustrating when you try your best to make it work, but your efforts just go unnoticed and under-appreciated. Its infuriating to the max.
Guys always say how they think differently than women. How they don't get 'beating-around-a-damn-bush' type of statements. How they take womens word more literally rather than the meaning within the meaning which we tend to do. Intreprating mixed signals. They suck at that. Men are more of concrete thinkers whereas we are more abstract. From time to time I've mentioned the importance of communication. I'm not making this up.
I can't stress enough how communication is what glues a r/ship, it's the concrete that holds your home, so here's a little tip for the guys:
1. Please try to listen to that person. Atleast pretend to be into what the other's yapping about eventho it's the most boring-est thing in the world that you'd rather eat dirt. Because he/she is just trying to entertain you and because it show's them how much you care. Laugh when they're joking, frown when they're angry, smirk when they're lame,cheer them up when its sad. Nod a little, pout a little. React a lot. Say SORRY as a go to phrase when you're actually lost in the conversation or argument. Trust me, do that and your life will become soOo much easier. A drama-free life is guarenteed there-on after . They say, Behind a succesful man, is a happily satisfied woman. *wink2*
2.Don't expect her to do all the talking, participate. And when you do get the chance to talk, please don't fill them only with commenting on their short-coming's. Believe me, she is well aware of them. So reminding them every second will not help with anything besides annoying them or making them rebel and feel really bad.
3. Instead of critisizing her choice of fashion 24-7, tell her that she looks nice (with a sincere smile), but would look "breathtakingly better if she wore ...(isi tempat kosong)"
4. Plan ahead for things to do with them because you don't see them enough. Don't just wait for the other to decide in fear that in the end your gonna waste precious time. Once in a while yes, not all the time. ESPECIALLY when you meet once in a blue moon. Doesn't matter if she'll go with the plan, but planning show's them how excited you are to meet her and how you've missed her so. When you don't plan ideas, you seem as if you could care less. Mane-mane jela, ape-ape jela, ikotlah. Plus, some girls, HATE to plan (because a.she hates planning and b.she's no good at them) They wanna be told. Unless you are not majority women. If not pre-planned, then somebody has to be more spontaneous.
5. Never assume she's the one busy so because you're afraid to disturb her, let her make the first move. Especially when she's not.BUSY. For example, contoh sahaje, I'm cuti-cuti'ing and he's studying hence, who dya think is busier? If its too hard, ask for her suggestions beforehand, not when she's there in the flesh.
So those are a few outta many more tips to help you through a 'non-communicable' r/ship. Applicable for BOTH genders.
Ladies...
Sometimes, its frustrating when you try your best to make it work, but your efforts just go unnoticed and under-appreciated. Its infuriating to the max.
Guys always say how they think differently than women. How they don't get 'beating-around-a-damn-bush' type of statements. How they take womens word more literally rather than the meaning within the meaning which we tend to do. Intreprating mixed signals. They suck at that. Men are more of concrete thinkers whereas we are more abstract. From time to time I've mentioned the importance of communication. I'm not making this up.
I can't stress enough how communication is what glues a r/ship, it's the concrete that holds your home, so here's a little tip for the guys:
1. Please try to listen to that person. Atleast pretend to be into what the other's yapping about eventho it's the most boring-est thing in the world that you'd rather eat dirt. Because he/she is just trying to entertain you and because it show's them how much you care. Laugh when they're joking, frown when they're angry, smirk when they're lame,cheer them up when its sad. Nod a little, pout a little. React a lot. Say SORRY as a go to phrase when you're actually lost in the conversation or argument. Trust me, do that and your life will become soOo much easier. A drama-free life is guarenteed there-on after . They say, Behind a succesful man, is a happily satisfied woman. *wink2*
2.Don't expect her to do all the talking, participate. And when you do get the chance to talk, please don't fill them only with commenting on their short-coming's. Believe me, she is well aware of them. So reminding them every second will not help with anything besides annoying them or making them rebel and feel really bad.
3. Instead of critisizing her choice of fashion 24-7, tell her that she looks nice (with a sincere smile), but would look "breathtakingly better if she wore ...(isi tempat kosong)"
4. Plan ahead for things to do with them because you don't see them enough. Don't just wait for the other to decide in fear that in the end your gonna waste precious time. Once in a while yes, not all the time. ESPECIALLY when you meet once in a blue moon. Doesn't matter if she'll go with the plan, but planning show's them how excited you are to meet her and how you've missed her so. When you don't plan ideas, you seem as if you could care less. Mane-mane jela, ape-ape jela, ikotlah. Plus, some girls, HATE to plan (because a.she hates planning and b.she's no good at them) They wanna be told. Unless you are not majority women. If not pre-planned, then somebody has to be more spontaneous.
5. Never assume she's the one busy so because you're afraid to disturb her, let her make the first move. Especially when she's not.BUSY. For example, contoh sahaje, I'm cuti-cuti'ing and he's studying hence, who dya think is busier? If its too hard, ask for her suggestions beforehand, not when she's there in the flesh.
So those are a few outta many more tips to help you through a 'non-communicable' r/ship. Applicable for BOTH genders.
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